Relationship Addictions

RELATIONAL DEPENDENCY QUIZ:

Common Behaviors of People Who Confuse Love With Obsession

Are you concerned that your attraction to another person has become unhealthy? Do you

feel that you have become obsessed with your relationship? Are the feelings you experience around this person overwhelming, causing you to behave in ways that seem unusual?

Here are some common traits & characteristics of relationally dependent people that you can use to gauge your own situation. Because the dynamics of attachment styles are complex, these traits should not be considered as a complete list. Consider each one cafefully and decide if this speaks to your situation of someone you care for. Award yourself one point to discover where you fall on the Confusing Love with Obsession Scale which appears at the bottom of this page.

1. You become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to a person without taking the time to get to know him or her.

2. You fear abandonment & loneliness, causing you stay in and return to painful, destructive

and abusive relationships.

3. You involve yourself in more than one relationship at a time, both emotionally & sexually.

4. You confuse love with obsession, using controlling behaviors directed towards your

partner(s) with the hope of keeping him or her from leaving you.

5. You feel empty inside, even while in a relationship, causing you to search for new

love interests.

6. You spend money you don't have on a romantic interest, causing you to go into debt.

7. You use sex & emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.

8. You become preoccupied with a romatic interest and are unable to concentrate.

9. You attach yourself to emotionally unavailable people and/or abusive partners.

10. You compulsively search for new relationships - even if you currently in one.

11. You obsess over, monitor and perhaps stalk the object of your affection

12. You assign unrealistic qualities to those you are attraced to, believing they can bring you

happiness and "save" you from your loneliness.

If you found yourself nodding your head "Yes" to these characteristics and feel that they speak to your situation, it may be time to dig a bit deeper. Click on the book cover that appears below (next to the point scale) and order a tool that is designed to offer guideance. Being in love does not have to mean living in agony.